Freedom from the Chains of Un-Forgiveness

Recently, I have engaged in a study about forgiveness. I was certain that I knew all the basics that I needed to know. Many times we hear so much about a topic that we, without knowing, turn our listening off and move on to the next issue. However, as I studied further, I found some very interesting and practical facts about forgiveness.

“Five Basic Principles of Biblical Forgiveness”

            Recently, I have engaged in a study about forgiveness. I was certain that I knew all the basics that I needed to know. Many times we hear so much about a topic that we, without knowing, turn our listening off and move on to the next issue. However, as I studied further, I found some very interesting and practical facts about forgiveness. 

1. We must recognize our own condition as sinners: Without the clear revelation that we are sinners and that we need God’s mercy we will never be able to forgive anybody. Forgiveness is a test for our hearts and consequently gives us a clear indicator of where we are spiritually in our walk with the Lord. Psalms 130: 3 tells us, “If you, O Lord, kept a record of sins, O Lord, who could stand?” As long as we assume that we can stand while we blind ourselves from our own need for forgiveness we will be jammed spiritually.


2. We are all called to always forgive; no exceptions: Matthew 18:21-22 tells us, “Then came Peter to him, and said, Lord, how oft shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? Till seven times?

Jesus saith unto him, I say not unto thee, until seven times: but, until seventy times seven.” There is never a reason to run out of reasons to forgive. Forgiveness is more than about the person that sinned against you, it is about the condition of your heart. Lack of forgiveness is lack of understanding of the reality of the Gospel.


3. Our Forgiveness for others is connected to God’s forgiveness for us: Matthew 6:14-15 establishes this very serious truth, “For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their trespasses neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.” We try to ignore this reality, but un-forgiveness can have devastating consequences.


4. Forgiveness is a promise not to ever bring the sinned committed against you back up again: To continue to bring the offense up repetitively it is a clear indicator that we have not forgiven. Our example of how to forgive is God Himself and in His Word He tells us in Jeremiah 31:34, “I will forgive their wickedness and will remember their sins no more.”


5. Forgiveness is not complete without purposely and actively going after reconciliation: In the book, “Forgive! As the Lord Forgave You” Mr. Patrick H. Morrison made an excellent point.

“Frequently, it is said, ‘I can forgive, but can never forget.’ Actually this cliché misses the point; the issue is not forgetting but forgiving. The notion of ‘forgive and forget’ implies abandoning rather than healing the relationship.”

2 Corinthians 5:18 clearly states that we are all called to the ministry of reconciliation, “And all things are of God, who hath reconciled us to himself by Jesus Christ, and hath given to us the ministry of reconciliation…” Many times people struggle with the idea of what they’re called may be; one of many calls is the universal call to the beautiful ministry of reconciliation. The word reconciliation means, “A return to God’s favor.” Reconciliation also strongly implies a return to fellowship with God and with each other.

            Do you have un-forgiveness in your heart? Give that pain to the Lord; He will give you a heart to forgive and set you free from the chains of un-forgiveness.


Author: angelcasiano

An independent thinker with a profound call to see the orthodoxy of the church and passion for Christ manifesting together. Angel was born in Brooklyn, New York in April of 1968, he was raised on the beautiful island of Puerto Rico where he earned his B.S. degree in Sociology with a minor in Education from the Inter American University in San Germán in 1991. That same year he moved to Jacksonville, Florida. After working construction jobs for a year and learning the English language, his first job working with foster-care children in the capacity of youth care worker was with Jacksonville Youth Sanctuary in September of 1992. With JYS he was promoted several times as group home supervisor, legal caseworker, and program director. While in Jacksonville, Angel studied a couple of martial arts styles. After earning his black belt, he became the founder of Good Fight Ministries as he used martial arts as an instrument to preach the gospel. In 2004 Angel was selected Martial Arts Instructor of the Year for the State of Florida and in 2005 Angel was inducted in the USA Martial Arts Hall of Fame where he also received the Christian Spirit Award. In July of 2005 Angel accepted his call to pastor a bilingual church in Winton, NC where he served for a couple of years. Five months later he lost his first wife to cancer in December of that same year. This initiated a deep valley of suffering in his life, a mountain of costly mistakes and the embracing of lifestyles of sin that are well documented through this blog. In August of 2012 Angel moved to Fairbanks Alaska with his wife Rayette Casiano and six children who are now adults. In Alaska, Angel continued his social work-related career and his ministry of preaching, teaching and writing. Angel is the author of two books, Hope for the divorcee: Forgiving and Moving Forward and 7 Banderas de Esperanza: La Bendición de Yokdzonot. In January 8th of 2020 Angel and his wife moved to Arizona.

3 thoughts on “Freedom from the Chains of Un-Forgiveness”

  1. You write from my hometown Angelo Jacksonville, Florida;I grew up on the westside; military brat.

    Angelo through my “Take Back What The Devil Stole”search I discovered your blog and the “Freedom From The Chains of Un-forgiveness” August 26, 2010, posting.

    God has shown me, once again Angelo, through your unforgiveness posting I harbor these feelings towards my husband and others. Once again, that God does not want me to continue to live this way.
    Therefore Angelo, with your permission, would you allow me to copy the unforgiveness posting and reference bible verses?
    Thank you. May God Bless you and your adorable family!


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