It is Time to Grow Up


“When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child; but when I became a man, I put away childish things.” (1 Corinthians 13:11)

            As I became a brand new Christian, it became evident that there were expectations from others to see me behaving differently. How many of you guys still feel that kind of pressure today? The world is very quick to throw at us the “you are supposed to be a Christian” rock. The reality is that in order for us to behave in an acceptable or even admirable way, we don’t even have to be Christians. I am sure many of us have known people or even know people today that are socially and morally noticeable; people with a very high ethical standard; people of truth and very reliable in their dealings. A behavior is an external thing; it is indeed what people are able to see. Physiologically speaking, behavior is defined as: “The way in which a person, organism, or group responds to a specific set of conditions.” As Christians we should be conscious of the way we behave in the presence of others; no doubt and no argument about that; however in our growth we must press on towards a greater level of maturity.

            A deeper level of maturity is when we are careful in what we say; this is a very admirable way of living as we try our best to measure and make sure that our delivery of words comes out just right. Many have mastered the skill of measuring their words before speaking. I surely have placed both of my feet in my mouth with some of the things I have said in my now forty two years of life. I wish that I can go back in time and take some of the things I said back. We can fake it with our talk, but sooner of later our mouth will betray us and if people get close enough, they will be able to see what is really in our hearts. Perhaps, this is the reason why many people place a wall around them; it is the fear of exposing their humanity. We as Christians must be very careful with what we say as we know that the Bible teaches us that there is power in the things we say. However, there is yet a deeper level of maturity.

            Proverbs 23:7 tells us: “For as he thinks in his heart, so is he…” Many will say that we are what we eat; but Biblically speaking: “We are what we thing.” A more mature Christian does not only guard his behavior and lips. Doing so without dealing with thoughts is a waste of time as it refers to our Kingdom contribution. How many of you know that we can behave one way, but feel a different way totally contrary to our behavior? How many also know that we can say many things and not mean one word of what we say? How we behave and what we say are obviously visible and audible actions. However, our thinking reflects who we really are. The problem here is that only God and the individual knows what our deep and secret thoughts are. Beloved, it is time to be honest with ourselves and dig deeper and transform our stinking thinking into a Godly way of thinking; it is there that we demonstrate our maturity. Beloved, it is time to grow up.