It amazes me how many people in the Body of Christ are in complete denial of their need for that special someone. They tell themselves, “I don’t need anybody but Jesus!” “I am doing find alone.” “I have all the husband I need, in Jesus,” etc. Yet, their hearts are contradictory. They are indeed burning up in passion in their secret places! Beloved, unless you are a eunuch, you are lying to yourself and to others. In Matthew 19:11-12 Jesus tells us:
“Jesus replied, “Not everyone can accept this word, but only those to whom it has been given. For there are eunuchs who were born that way, and there are eunuchs who have been made eunuchs by others—and there are those who choose to live like eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. The one who can accept this should accept it.”
Now, if you choose to be a eunuch, then do so with sincerity. However, unless you are in one of the other two categories, being alone is not for you. We also have other groups that preach from the warm blankets of their homes, where every time they extend their hands, they are able to touch the flesh of their spouse yet; they want to tell us all about, the “All We Need is Jesus” sermon. Beloved, there is a cry in our hearts for something more than sex; we are crying out for intimacy. Genesis 2:18 tells us:
“The LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”
We must pause and think about this verse for a minute. Adam was walking with God; Adam was enjoying a relationship with God that we envy today. Adam was in a perfect place, with no worries, no cares and no fears…a totally perfect world! Nevertheless, God, not Adam; after establishing that all, so far, was good; established that it is not good for a man to be alone. At that moment, if the issue was just to have somebody to talk to, then why not create another man, or a friend, a sister, a brother, a son or a daughter? God gave a Adam a wife; a relationship so, strong that Jesus tells us in Matthew 19:5
“For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh”
This relationship is so, strong that it is one that will force us to leave the strong relationships that we know prior. We will leave our father, mother, sister and brother to unite ourselves with that very special person. Two people then will become one flesh! Have you seen people that are in love? They can’t stop touching each other; they are holding hands, kissing, looking at each other, etc. That is because God created us for that kind of intimacy. Many that have been married for a long time have the tendency to take these beautiful things for granted until they find themselves alone, then suddenly their sermons will start changing.
Beloved, this is not about animalistic sex, a one night stand, etc. This is about the natural need that we have for intimacy. So yes, we can feel lonely without a wife/ husband. We can be lonely with a wife/husband. Even as we take care of our children, get involved in our jobs and even ministry; there is a part of us that feels lonely. It is time to get real: The world tells the single woman: “You need a man” and it tells man “You need to get some!” Both views are incomplete, but at least more sincere than many of our ridiculous statements. Unless you are a eunuch, you need intimacy; that is the Biblical way!