If you have been in church a month, especially in a Pentecostal church, you know that the devil comes to steal, kill and destroy (John 10:10). Knowing his job description and how successful the devil is in mugging people, slaying and annihilating everything on his path, why does anybody would want him around? Yet, we open our doors and welcome him into our homes in a daily basis. We do that by allowing his School of Thought to enter our homes through his music, his movies, fashion, TV shows, books, video games and everything in between.
We fail to realize that the devil’s work has physical and tangible points of entrance. Psalm 109:18 tell us, “But he clothed himself with cursing as with his garment, And it entered into his body like water And like oil into his bones.” (NASB) A curse enters through our clothing, into our bodies like water and into our bones like oil. Something to definitely think about… Selah!
On this article I want to focus on how we allow the devil to come into our marriages. In First Corinthians 7:5 the great Apostle Paul, under the inspiration of the Holy Ghost, gives us one of the most practical advices to marriage found in Scripture by stating “Stop depriving one another, except by agreement for a time, so that you devote yourselves to prayer, and come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.” (NASB)
The Apostle Paul, essentially is saying, “Husbands and wives, give it up every time is requested by your spouse… Give it up always! If you don’t… the devil will come in.” Notice that the only time we can take a biblical break from sex in our marriages is by mutual agreement to dedicate a time of prayer. As soon as the prayer is over and somebody say “in Jesus name… Amen”, is time to get it on again!
In spite of this biblical mandate, if you have been married more than six months, you know that there is a lot depriving that takes place in marriage. Mostly that sexual rejection comes from the women. For the most part, the husbands are the ones complaining that they are not getting enough sex. The wife finds excuses in stating that he is not as romantic as he used to be. That may be the case in part; however, back in the days, when you truly desire your husband, it did not take much for him to get you going. Now it has become more complicated than gymnastics. Furthermore, many of you were turn on back in the days when you were in sin; but now in marriage you are colder than the State of Alaska. Many need to resolve an issue of the soul that is turn on by illicit sex, but is unable to enjoy legitimate sex in the sanctity of marriage.
Under no circumstances can we justify sex outside of marriage. Even if the husband is suffering rejection from his wife that does not justify giving ourselves up to satisfying our sexual desires outside of marriage. We will still have to be accountable to God. Nevertheless, the wife has no right to judge her husband and look down on him, if she has allow the devil to come in by constantly rejecting her husband.
If you as a wife are not giving it up to your husband, know that you are opening the door for the devil to come in and steal, kill and destroy your marriage through pornography, through affairs and ultimately, through divorce. What do you expect? Paul stated, very clearly, that temptation comes because of our lack of self-control. Your husband is not superman; your husband wants to make love to you and, unless you do, he will eventually find ways to satisfy his sexual desire first, through masturbation; second by adding pornography and third, if the opportunity present itself, by having an actual physical affair with another women. The same is true for a wife. I am not saying that is always the case, but that is indeed the case for many marriages who are out of compliance with the biblical mandate of… giving it up.