Allowing the Devil to Come into our Marriages


If you have been in church a month, especially in a Pentecostal church, you know that the devil comes to steal, kill and destroy (John 10:10). Knowing his job description and how successful the devil is in mugging people, slaying and annihilating everything on his path, why does anybody would want him around? Yet, we open our doors and welcome him into our homes in a daily basis. We do that by allowing his School of Thought to enter our homes through his music, his movies, fashion, TV shows, books, video games and everything in between.

         We fail to realize that the devil’s work has physical and tangible points of entrance. Psalm 109:18 tell us, “But he clothed himself with cursing as with his garment, And it entered into his body like water And like oil into his bones.” (NASB) A curse enters through our clothing, into our bodies like water and into our bones like oil. Something to definitely think about… Selah!

         On this article I want to focus on how we allow the devil to come into our marriages. In First Corinthians 7:5 the great Apostle Paul, under the inspiration of the Holy Ghost, gives us one of the most practical advices to marriage found in Scripture by stating “Stop depriving one another, except by agreement for a time, so that you devote yourselves to prayer, and come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.” (NASB)

         The Apostle Paul, essentially is saying, “Husbands and wives, give it up every time is requested by your spouse… Give it up always! If you don’t… the devil will come in.” Notice that the only time we can take a biblical break from sex in our marriages is by mutual agreement to dedicate a time of prayer. As soon as the prayer is over and somebody say “in Jesus name… Amen”, is time to get it on again!

         In spite of this biblical mandate, if you have been married more than six months, you know that there is a lot depriving that takes place in marriage. Mostly that sexual rejection comes from the women. For the most part, the husbands are the ones complaining that they are not getting enough sex. The wife finds excuses in stating that he is not as romantic as he used to be. That may be the case in part; however, back in the days, when you truly desire your husband, it did not take much for him to get you going. Now it has become more complicated than gymnastics. Furthermore, many of you were turn on back in the days when you were in sin; but now in marriage you are colder than the State of Alaska. Many need to resolve an issue of the soul that is turn on by illicit sex, but is unable to enjoy legitimate sex in the sanctity of marriage.

         Under no circumstances can we justify sex outside of marriage. Even if the husband is suffering rejection from his wife that does not justify giving ourselves up to satisfying our sexual desires outside of marriage. We will still have to be accountable to God. Nevertheless, the wife has no right to judge her husband and look down on him, if she has allow the devil to come in by constantly rejecting her husband.

         If you as a wife are not giving it up to your husband, know that you are opening the door for the devil to come in and steal, kill and destroy your marriage through pornography, through affairs and ultimately, through divorce. What do you expect? Paul stated, very clearly, that temptation comes because of our lack of self-control. Your husband is not superman; your husband wants to make love to you and, unless you do, he will eventually find ways to satisfy his sexual desire first, through masturbation; second by adding pornography and third, if the opportunity present itself, by having an actual physical affair with another women. The same is true for a wife. I am not saying that is always the case, but that is indeed the case for many marriages who are out of compliance with the biblical mandate of… giving it up.

Author: angelcasiano

An independent thinker with a profound call to see the orthodoxy of the church and passion for Christ manifesting together. Angel was born in Brooklyn, New York in April of 1968, he was raised on the beautiful island of Puerto Rico where he earned his B.S. degree in Sociology with a minor in Education from the Inter American University in San Germán in 1991. That same year he moved to Jacksonville, Florida. After working construction jobs for a year and learning the English language, his first job working with foster-care children in the capacity of youth care worker was with Jacksonville Youth Sanctuary in September of 1992. With JYS he was promoted several times as group home supervisor, legal caseworker, and program director. While in Jacksonville, Angel studied a couple of martial arts styles. After earning his black belt, he became the founder of Good Fight Ministries as he used martial arts as an instrument to preach the gospel. In 2004 Angel was selected Martial Arts Instructor of the Year for the State of Florida and in 2005 Angel was inducted in the USA Martial Arts Hall of Fame where he also received the Christian Spirit Award. In July of 2005 Angel accepted his call to pastor a bilingual church in Winton, NC where he served for a couple of years. Five months later he lost his first wife to cancer in December of that same year. This initiated a deep valley of suffering in his life, a mountain of costly mistakes and the embracing of lifestyles of sin that are well documented through this blog. In August of 2012 Angel moved to Fairbanks Alaska with his wife Rayette Casiano and six children who are now adults. In Alaska, Angel continued his social work-related career and his ministry of preaching, teaching and writing. Angel is the author of two books, Hope for the divorcee: Forgiving and Moving Forward and 7 Banderas de Esperanza: La Bendición de Yokdzonot. In January 8th of 2020 Angel and his wife moved to Arizona.

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