And they heard the sound of the Lord God walking in the garden in the cool of the day, and the man and his wife hid themselves from the presence of the Lord God among the trees of the garden. ⁹ But the Lord God called to the man and said to him, “Where are you?”  ¹⁰ And he said, “I heard the sound of you in the garden, and I was afraid, because I was naked, and I hid myself.” ¹¹ He said, “Who told you that you were naked? Have you eaten of the tree of which I commanded you not to eat?” ¹² The man said, “The woman whom you gave to be with me, she gave me fruit of the tree, and I ate.” Genesis 3:8-12 (ESV)

As you can see, the blaming game started early. Immediately after the fall God goes to Adam. Adam did not take responsibility as he should have, because he had the information; God told them not to eat of the Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil; he was not ignorant on the matter. Adam could have stopped that situation in a second. The Bible tells us that Eve was deceived, not Adam.^[1] But Adam was guilty of listening to his wife in a situation where he needed to listen and obey what God already established. 

Beloved, is the same thing today; women, for the most part, are an easy target to suffer from deceitfulness. Men, on the other side, for the most part, will suffer from going alone with the women in situations where he is called to be a man an exercise his divine authority. We believe sayings such as “happy wife, happy home.” So, your wife’s happiness becomes the priority, not God’s truth. That explains why so many homes are run by the wife and why those homes are upside down. 

When men exercise their authority at home, we can be victims of rebelliousness from the wife and household members; in that case, stay focus, keep praying because, God will intervene directly. However, when a man gives up his divine authority we are asking for chaos. In the story of the fall, not only that Adam delegated his authority to Eve, but he also introduced a demonic spirit that is still affecting us to this day ‘the blaming others for our mess spirit.”

I have diabetes, by now, everybody knows that sugar and carbs are our enemies. By now we know that we need a good clean diet of good protein, good fat and, that our plates MUST be decorated by green and other colorful vegetables. By now, we already know that we can’t embrace a sedentary life, I MUST EXERCISE 4 to five times out of the week. If my numbers are bad, I can’t blame my Doctor Wife. Why? Because I already have the information of what to do.

If you are fat, it is your responsibility to lose weight. If you are out of shape, it is your responsibility to get in shape. If you are spiritually dead, why are you blaming your pastor, your church, your parents, or your husband? Who can take away your prayer life and your dedication of the study of God’s Word? It is your responsibility; start right there! 

Some folks are broke all the time, they have a million-credit cards, every time you turn around they are financing things and then, when everything gees south, they blame Trump, the Republican Party or Biden and the Democrats. But the Bible gives us the information, “Owe no man anything, but to love one another…” Romans 13:8 (Century King James Version) Address your debt first! 

If you have a spiritual issue… pray and study the Scripture; go after God for answers. If you have an issue of your soul, still go after God, but know that God has given us pastors who are called to watch over our soul. Hebrews 13:7 tells us, 

Obey your leaders and submit to them, for they are keeping watch over your souls, as those who will have to give an account. Let them do this with joy and not with groaning, for that would be of no advantage to you. (ESV)

If you have an issue of your body, get off the couch, go for a walk, get a gym membership, change your diet, etc. Stop blaming! 

So, our main job as fathers, husbands and pastors of our home is to teach… to give the information necessary for folks to know what to do… if they don’t, understand that they are exercising their own will. It is tough for us as fathers, husbands, and pastors to see folks walking in total opposite of what we teach them from Scriptures. However, how do you think God feels? People disobey and blaspheme his name every day. 

There is no room for blaming others; we have access to God Almighty. Go to Him first and listen to the Holy Ghost. He will lead you to others for encouragement and for the flow of the gifts of Spirit for your edification. Get up and them let that same Spirit flow through you for the edification of others. Romans 8:37 tells us, “No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us.” (NIV) We are not victims, we are more than overcomers.

^[1] “And Adam was not the one deceived; it was the woman who was deceived and became a sinner.” 1 Timothy 2:14 (NIV)