God Or Pornography V


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We have established that the issue is not the need for deliverance. The issue is not that there is not enough power to overcome sexual sin. Even when you place yourself in a situation where you can’t overcome that temptation, God promises to give us a way out. (First Corinthians 10:13) In many cases all we need is a little wisdom or a little common sense to avoid certain things.

         Honestly, I can’t say that I fell into sexual immorality; I must fully admit that I did it because I wanted to. The Word was there, God’s wisdom was there and plenty of exits were there also, but I did it anyway. Again, there is nothing wrong with God’s system; the issue is the sinful nature in us.

         But what is at the heart of our failures concerning this issue of sexual immorality? It is an issue of love. It is the greatest evidence that we don’t love God enough. John 14:15 put it like this,

“If you love Me, keep My commandments.” (NKJV)

         In other words, if we love God we will obey what He say. The more we make decisions to please God, the more we express our love for Him. The more we make unwise decisions the more we make evident our lack of love for God. See, the fear of God is the beginning of wisdom (Proverbs 9:10). On the other hand, our love for Him is what keeps us pursuing Holiness.

         When I was in that hotel room in Indianapolis I was really looking forward to having an encounter with God. This time my desire to spend time with God was greater than my desire to satisfy the flesh. I say, “this time” because I have not always being successful. It is that love for God that establishes our inner struggles. Galatians 5:17 tells us,

17 For the flesh lusts against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh; and these are contrary to one another, so that you do not do the things that you wish. (NKJV)

 

         If we are openly sinning, doing what we want and focusing on us, we are showing our lack of love for God. I have seen a very famous comedian claiming that he is a Christian, but he openly uses profanity in his shows stating that, “God is not through with me yet”. Never mind that somebody, maybe he, wrote the stand up routine. So it is not like he was provoked to use profanity, he chooses to do so. In his case there is no struggle, it is just a massive display of the lack of love for God and for people as he, obviously doesn’t care about making others stumble over his foolishness. In Romans 7:25 Paul describe the nature of this battle as he says,

14 For we know that the law is spiritual, but I am carnal, sold under sin. 15 For what I am doing, I do not understand. For what I will to do, that I do not practice; but what I hate, that I do. 16 If, then, I do what I will not to do, I agree with the law that it is good. 17 But now, it is no longer I who do it, but sin that dwells in me. 18 For I know that in me (that is, in my flesh) nothing good dwells; for to will is present with me, but how to perform what is good I do not find. 19 For the good that I will to do, I do not do; but the evil I will not to do, that I practice. 20 Now if I do what I will not to do, it is no longer I who do it, but sin that dwells in me.

21 I find then a law, that evil is present with me, the one who wills to do good. 22 For I delight in the law of God according to the inward man. 23 But I see another law in my members, warring against the law of my mind, and bringing me into captivity to the law of sin which is in my members. 24 O wretched man that I am! Who will deliver me from this body of death? 25 I thank God—through Jesus Christ our Lord!

 

         What makes the battle so intense is our love for God and our sincere desire to not sin. So I do not deny that we will have our moments where we will do the evil that we don’t want to do in thought and action. That is because we are not perfect. However, it can’t ever be a life style of embracing sin; that is impossible for the person that truly loves God and is pursuing the first commandment. The Apostle John explained this issue the following way,

If we say that we have not sinned, we make Him a liar, and His word is not in us. 1 John 1:10 (NKJV)

         Let me make it clear that we will sin; the tendency to sin is already in us. We are indeed a work in progress. However, the issue here is this false teaching of accepting a life style of sin under the umbrella of our imperfection. When we embrace a lifestyle of sin we are then walking in darkness. It is no longer a struggle; it is our giving up.

         We are called to walk in the light; walking in the light does not equal perfection, but it does equal people that are serious about living holy lives. People who live in the light, not only love the Lord, but their love for God is made evident because of their love for people. First John 2:9-10 tells us,

He who says he is in the light, and hates his brother, is in darkness until now. 10 He who loves his brother abides in the light, and there is no cause for stumbling in him. (NKJV)

         See, God took the Ten Commandments and hundreds of laws and reduced them into two commandments, love God above all things and your neighbor as yourself (Mark 12:30-31) I would like to end this series not with my words, but with words that come directly out of the Bible,

Now by this we know that we know Him, if we keep His commandments. He who says, “I know Him,” and does not keep His commandments, is a liar, and the truth is not in him. But whoever keeps His word, truly the love of God is perfected in him. By this we know that we are in Him. First John 2:3-5 (NKJV)

 

15 Do not love the world or the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. 16 For all that is in the world—the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life—is not of the Father but is of the world. First John 2:15-16 (NKJV)

 

16 And we have known and believed the love that God has for us. God is love, and he who abides in love abides in God, and God in him. 17 Love has been perfected among us in this: that we may have boldness in the day of judgment; because as He is, so are we in this world. 18 There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear, because fear involves torment. But he who fears has not been made perfect in love. 19 We love Him because He first loved us. 20 If someone says, “I love God,” and hates his brother, he is a liar; for he who does not love his brother whom he has seen, how can he love God whom he has not seen? 21 And this commandment we have from Him: that he who loves God must love his brother also. First John 4:16-21

 

God Or Pornography IV


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God’s system works and is one hundred percent effective when applied. So what is the problem? After all these years, after all this knowledge of God, after all the worship songs, the Bible Studies and the awesome moments, why is it that that I am still inclined to go after sexual immorality?

         Essentially, many are asking, where is my deliverance? Subsequently, when deliverance does not come, many feel as if God has abandoned them. They don’t feel God’s love and they can’t sense His presence.

         It gets worse when they sit under those super powerful preachers that “struggle with nothing.” They teach that they are sanctified, filled with perfection and that sin is no longer and issue in their lives. It gets even worst when individuals who are struggling with sexual issues are prayed for and told they are actually delivered, only to find out that those sexual desires are still there.

         I believe in deliverance, don’t get me wrong. However, when it comes down to sexual desires it gets very complicated. That is because, unless you have the gift of self-control, you will always have those desires. It is like hunger or thirst, it is indeed a part of you as a human being.

         I know that many of you will not like this, but one of the reasons for marriage is so that we may satisfy those desires. First Corinthians 7:9 tells us,

but if they cannot exercise self-control, let them marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion. (NKJV)

         I remember a pastor telling me to wait a couple of years before getting married. That was easy for him to say! He was married, but I was burning up! I will never justify fornication, it is indeed a terrible sin, but I will never justify waiting to get married after you already know that’s the one. The less you wait, the better.

         But I should also add that just because you are married, that does not necessarily mean that you are off the hook from sexual immorality. See beloved, sexual immorality is any sexual activity outside of marriage. All sexual activities are reserved for the sanctity of marriage. It should be fun and exciting. Just don’t limit yourself to the bed room; do it in the laundry room, do it in the car, do it in the bathroom, in the living room, in your own backyard if you can, just make sure you don’t go to jail over it or have others watch you, but be creative with the love of your life. In First Corinthians 7:5 we, the married folks, receive specific instructions from Paul,

Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. (NKJV)

 

         Every time you, man of God or you, woman of God, decide that you are not giving yourself sexually to your spouse, you are in direct violation of God’s Word. You are directly contributing to the destruction of your own marriage by allowing Satan to come in. Satan comes in to kill, steal and destroy (John 10:10) your marriage. Sexual desires are no joke!

         The point that I want to make here is this; as it refers to deliverance, it is not coming! You will never be delivered from something God put on you. I know many of you claim to be super spiritual, but sexual desire is a normal and powerful thing. Those sexual desires will always be there.

         So then, many of you may be telling yourselves, if I am not going to be delivered from this thing, then, is it ok for me to watch pornography and masturbate? Is it ok for me to sleep around? After all, I can’t be delivered, right? No, that is not what I am saying and that is not the heart of God regarding this matter. Remember what First Corinthians 10:13 tells us,

13 No temptation has overtaken you except such as is common to man; but God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will also make the way of escape, that you may be able to bear it. (NKJV)

 

         Temptations will come our way; Jesus himself was tempted in all things according to Hebrews 4:15. Satan is an expert on how to effectively tempt us. Our job, when faced with temptations, especially the sexual temptations, is to flee from it (I Corinthians 6:18). The reason we constantly fall in this area is because we don’t flee from it. We either continued to put ourselves in the position to be tempted or when God, in His mercy, shows us the exit, we simply don’t take it. Why don’t we take that exit? The answer to this question is the root of the issue; the answer to this question will surprise many of you.

TO BE CONTINUED…

 

God Or Pornography III


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Even as I obeyed the Lord and called the front desk to block HBO out my hotel room, I was kind of disappointed. After all, I am a man of God, why was I not able to control myself on my own? Better yet, why did God not send an angel to give me the strength to resist such temptation?

         I really wish I could be a super spiritual man, but the reality is that I am not. I am weak, however, it is important to establish that my weakness is not an excuse to surrender to sin. 2 Corinthians 12:9-11 tells us,

And He said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore most gladly I will rather boast in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me. 10 Therefore I take pleasure in infirmities, in reproaches, in needs, in persecutions, in distresses, for Christ’s sake. For when I am weak, then I am strong. (NKJV)

         In moments when we are faced with temptations the power of God is indeed available. God is telling us “…His grace is sufficient…” In other words, God’s grace is all we need to have victory over nights like the one I had in that hotel room in Indianapolis. God gave us an amazing truth concerning temptations in James 1:13-14,

13 Let no one say when he is tempted, “I am tempted by God”; for God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does He Himself tempt anyone. 14 But each one is tempted when he is drawn away by his own desires and enticed. (NKJV)

         I was not looking for anything pornographic as I was flipping channels. The naked woman on HBO was a temptation set by satanic forces. However, the moment I identified the temptation, it was up to me to choose God or pornography. In First Corinthians 10:13 we find a powerful promise,

 13 No temptation has overtaken you except such as is common to man; but God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will also make the way of escape, that you may be able to bear it. (NKJV)

         The first thing we need to establish is that there are temptations that are very common. We all face them in one way or another, that is, if we are honest.

         The promise here is that God will not allow us to face a temptation stronger than the spiritual level we find ourselves in, at the moment of the temptation. Further, God promised that if we find ourselves facing a temptation that is indeed too strong for us, He would still provide an exit. The problem is that many times we refuse to take that exit and those are the times we really get in trouble. At the end, it is our doing, not Satan; and definitely, not God.

TO BE CONTINUED…

God Or Pornography II


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I heard a man of God saying that every time big Christian men conferences take pace in cities around the United States, the orders of pornographic movies greatly increase in hotels. I guess the number is large enough for them to notice.

         I was weak away from my lovely wife. I was alone and I was tired. My spirit wanted to have a life-changing encounter with Christ in that Hotel, but my flesh had other plans. I knew that whatever I chose to do in that moment was going to determine the spiritual outcome of my trip.

         Very quickly I heard the voice of God telling me, “Call the front desk and ask them to block HBO.” I called and they replied that they were not able to block HBO, but they were able to place a parental control on the whole TV, I told them that was wonderful. That night, I did nothing embarrassing; I wished I would have not look at that naked woman for the three seconds I did look, but that night, I did not engage in pornography. That night my desire to have an encounter with God was greater than my desire to gratify myself through pornographic images; with this in mind, the Lord was about to release a life-changing message into my spirit.

TO BE CONTINUED…

God Or Pornography


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If you are perfect and have always done the right thing when it comes down to your sexuality, this series of articles are not for you. If you are the husband of one wife, stayed sexually pure until marriage and don’t remember what it feels like to be single, this series is not for you either.

         However, if you know that, independently of your social status and reputation, you are constantly giving your secret place to sexual perversion, this series is Holy Ghost inspired to help you.

         I am going to be honest, transparent, but also Biblical. This series is written in love and with great compassion to help men all over the world understand this brutal battle and know how to have victory in this area.

         I was in Indianapolis, Indiana for the 2014 Christian Martial Arts Union Annual Conference. I was far away from my wife, my children and from our home in Fairbanks, Alaska. I felt so exhausted from such a long trip. I must say that either I am getting fatter or the airplanes are getting smaller; my body was surely hurting, my flesh was surely weak.

         As I arrived in my hotel room, all by myself, I prayed a short prayer thanking God for bringing me to Indianapolis safely. I then turned on the TV and started flipping channels. Very quickly I landed on HBO and less than 15 minutes after arriving in that luxurious room at the Hyatt’s Hotel, I had a beautiful, sensual and naked woman on my giant screen TV. She got my attention as I momentarily stopped flipping the channels. After a few seconds I did flip the channel again and refused to keep looking, but the reality is that I did look.

         I want you guys to understand that, not only was I in Indianapolis for this conference, but above all, I wanted to spend time alone with God. I wanted for God to speak to me in that hotel room, I wanted to feel His presence, I wanted for HIM to renew my strength and I wanted revival to start in my own heart. But now, I needed to chose; God or Pornography?

TO BE CONTINUED…

So, What About Sensuality?


I know that many people will perhaps get upset over what I am about to discuss. However, I try my best to listen to the Lord and develop the topic from there. I must say that as I write about this topic, I feel extremely disqualify, as I am the last person on this earth that should be writing or talking about any topic related to sexual sin. But, are we ever worthy of preaching God’s Word? This is indeed an important topic that deserves special attention.

Sensuality is a powerful weapon used by Satan against humanity. Satan has been using this weapon for a long time because of its effectiveness. Sensuality leads to impurity of the mind and those thoughts become actual behavior designed for our own destruction.

We are constantly been bombarded with things that are designed to arouse our natural sexual desires. We live in a society filled with sensuality wherever we go.

The New International Webster’s Pocket Dictionary defines “sensuality” as: “The state of being sensual; lewdness; lasciviousness.” Lewdness is the same as: “Filthiness and vulgarity.” On the other hand Lasciviousness means: “Arousing sexual desire.”

From the clothing we wear, to the music videos, to the Lyrics of many songs, TV Shows, Movies… we see sensuality everywhere. It has indeed become the norm to be sensual! In his sermon: “12 Deadly Sins (and How to Avoid Them)” Pastor Keith Dostel stated the following:

“People who would be mortified to walk down the street in their underwear are guilty of the sin of sensuality when they lie around the pool or on the beach in attire that is significantly smaller than their underwear.  It is not acceptable for believers to dress (or undress) in that manner simply because this is how people normally dress (or undress) at the beach.  The believer never has the freedom to act like the world because this is how the world normally acts.  When a Christian gives himself over to his own sensual desires, whether it is an inordinate display of skin, or an inordinate consumption of food, or an excessive viewing of movies and video games, or the viewing of those who display too much skin, this is the sin of sensuality.”

It is a daily struggle to fight against this spirit. The reason it is so difficult is because we were indeed created with sexual desires. These are beautiful desires that are meant to be satisfied in the beauty and sanctity of marriage. However, you know this, you are driving down the highway and there it is, a huge billboard with a beautiful seductive woman looking straight at you. You turn on the TV to watch your favorite football team and there you can see the cheerleaders with very little covering on their athletic bodies as they dance to the music…the commercials do not help either!

The Apostle Paul needed to confront this spirit of sensuality as he write to the Corinthians church:

“I am afraid that when I come again my God may humiliate me before you, and I may mourn over many of those who have sinned in the past and not repented of the impurity, immorality and sensuality which they have practiced.” 2 Corinthians 12:21 (NASB)

 

      We must point out that Paul is talking to the church here; these are folks that are in the church, but find nothing wrong with these kinds of lifestyles. On this verse we are dealing with three sins that are connected to sexual sin:

1. Impurity: The word impurity in the Greek means: “Uncleanness or filth in a natural or physical sense; moral uncleanness, lewdness, incontinence in general[1]

2.  Immorality: “To commit fornication or any sexual sin. Fornication, lewdness, or any sexual sin.[2]

3.  Sensuality: “Lasciviousness, license, debauchery, sexual excess, absence of restraint, insatiable desire for pleasure. [3]

 

When we are dealing with impurity we are dealing with the condition of our minds outside of Christ. It is giving our deep thoughts to our sensual desires. In dealing with Sexual Immorality we are dealing with any sexual activity outside of marriage. Then we have this thing called Sensuality that becomes the powerful spirit that easily enticed us to meditate on impure thoughts and take us to the actual acts of Sexual Immorality.

I am blessed to work in a place where women dress very appropriately, but in some workplaces it is not so. Women are constantly wearing clothing that leave very little to the imagination. Many churches are also filled with seduction. It is obvious that many of the sisters that come to church are not coming with the idea of kneeling down to pray judging by the clothing they constantly choose to wear.

What a challenge many of us parents are facing! Our children are growing up in the midst of a generation where sensuality is not only accepted, but celebrated like never before. Beloved, this teaching is not the result of legalism or some outdated message. This is the Word of God. We can’t speak about Sexual Immorality without addressing the seduction among us. Paul saw these seductions as a personal humiliation for him. May God help us all!


[1] Zodhiates, S. (2000). The complete word study dictionary: New Testament (electronic ed.). Chattanooga, TN: AMG Publishers.

[2] Zodhiates, S. (2000). The complete word study dictionary: New Testament (electronic ed.). Chattanooga, TN: AMG Publishers.

[3] Zodhiates, S. (2000). The complete word study dictionary: New Testament (electronic ed.). Chattanooga, TN: AMG Publishers.

The Idol of Ejaculation


            Men, if you are not complete without a wife you are not ready for marriage. So then, after you realize that you are complete, how do you know that she is the one? Is it her eyes? Is it her hair? Is it the way she walks? It must be her killing body, right? “That girl doesn’t miss one day in the Gym!” Or is it the way she makes you feel every time you kiss her?

            Many of us have felt all these things before, but surely they were not enough to carry on a successful relationship; to the contrary, we step into terrible nightmares. There is only one sign; one thing that is the determining factor in knowing that you have found that “good thing” that the Bible speaks about: If your relationship with this woman draws you closer to Christ and further from sin. The way our dating season goes is the best indicator of how Godly or not that relationship is. Many times, we don’t even have to go into a date to know that we must flee from that person. The Bible encourages us to flee from sexual immorality; some of us see the writing on the wall the first time we look, but yet, we still go after our own spiritual and, at times, literal death.

            So when you get to the point where you can sincerely tell a woman: “I am blessed when I am alone, but I am better when I am with you.” as it relates to your relationship with God…you have found “the one”; you are now ready for marriage. For before God established that it was not good for a man to be alone, Adam spend time alone with God first. By the time Eve came into the picture, Adam was already in relationship with God and moving in his purpose and destiny.

            Many of us engaged in relationships that are ungodly from the “get-go” as they quickly move us away from the things of God. We engage in relationships out of desperation; out of fear of fornication, even as many are already fornicating. Marriage becomes then, the remedy that will fix your sexual immorality…but the problem is that marriage never fixes anything; because the issue is not the marriage or who we marry, but what is in our hearts! We marry then, for the wrong reasons and then we are surprised when everything goes wrong.

            Many of us have fallen in the trap of the world as many of us end up worshiping the Idol of ejaculation. For those few minutes of pleasure, and for some it is literally a few minutes, we develop a heart that is willing to sin against God. We then turn our backs on our fellowship with the Lord and become faithful followers of our animalistic instinct. We know deep inside that woman is not the one, but “Oh, she’s so fine!” we say like voluntary prisoners of our selfish desires. Soon we will find ourselves in a deep cave of shame, jealousy, turmoil, anger, rejection and lack of peace. Soon, we find ourselves losing all sensitivity to the presence of God as the idol of ejaculation reports to the devil: “One more time, one more victim…mission accomplished.” Ladies, the same applies to you as many of you worship your own idol of orgasm! Don’t think that God can’t see what you keep secretly in your drawer.

Testimony: Escaping from the Trap of Adultery on a Rainy Friday Afternoon


It was a rainy Friday, late in the afternoon. I was on the phone talking with my good friend Dennis on my way home from work as we were being transparent to each other and praying, for we made a commitment to pray every day. I found myself weeping and telling my friend that I was terrified because I was convinced that I would fall into adultery at any time. My flesh was jumping all over the place and I felt that if any woman would look at me or say some things implying sex, I would, without a doubt fall in adultery. Even in being separated from my wife for almost a year and a half, I knew that God’s standards concerning sexual purity are very high; He does not even accept a “Hint of sexual immorality.” As my friend and I started praying, I knew that this was not a routinely religious prayer; this was a prayer of warfare against the kingdom of darkness. Something was up! The devil was planning an attack against my life and it was closer than I thought.

            The rain continued as I stopped at a gas station to fill up my car. Not even ten seconds after my last amen; while I was still wiping the tear out my eyes; a seemingly innocent woman approached me. She told me that she needed to get home to her kids, but her friend that was supposed to pick her up failed to do so. She added that she was just a few miles from the station and asked if I could give her a ride. Without thinking I say “Yes, no problem!” Within seconds of getting in my car, this woman was offering herself to me sexually; her demeanor totally changed. She touched my arm and my flesh cried out: “Glory!” I have not felt the touch of a woman in so long. My flesh continued speaking by saying: “This is it Angel; this is your chance; nobody will ever know; you don’t know this woman and she don’t know you!” But the Holy Spirit cried out even louder in the inside of me and yelled “No!” and I was reminded of Galatians 5: 16 “I say then: Walk in the Spirit, and you shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh.” I told this lady, “No.” She replied, “What, I am not attractive to you?” I said: “You are a beautiful woman, but I don’t do such things.” In no time we were at her place and I dropped her off.   

            I thank God for His Spirit. I thank God for giving me the awesome privilege of having friends that I can be transparent with; friends that I can pray with openly and without fear. What stopped me from adultery was not my great wisdom; it was very unwise on my part to allow this woman in my car to start with. What stopped me was not my love for my wife, even as I know I do love my wife. What stopped me was not my great self-control or even my love for my children and the people I serve in ministry. Nevertheless, what stopped me was God’s Spirit dealing with me face-to-face concerning this issue of sexual immorality, giving me the grace to pray in my closet, press on in prayer with my friend Dennis and God giving me sensitivity to His voice. May God help us all to walk in the Spirit! Glory be to God and His son Jesus Christ forever and ever… Amen!

Men, It’s Time to Come Out of the Closet!


I don’t want for you to think that I am being disrespectful, careless or un-loving towards you. If you feel that way, it’s surely not my intention. Because I do love you, I want to take the time to explain where I am coming from. I engaged in many street fights growing up in Puerto Rico; don’t ask me why, but I used to enjoy fighting. Later, as a teen I became an amateur boxer. In my twenties I became a Martial Artist here in the beautiful city of Jacksonville. I won some fights, but surely I lost others. However, they were just physical fights. Now that I am older, I find myself engaged in many emotional battles. The loss of my wife Ileana was and continues to be a tough one, especially when I look at my children struggling.

            As I remarried it was and continues to be extremely tough to go through our struggles there (https://angelcasiano.wordpress.com/category/about-me/). I must admit on the other hand, that no fight has been tougher and bloodier than my personal declaration of war on my sexual immorality. I am not holding back; I feel that I have lost so much and that I have wasted enough time.

            I feel as if there is nothing you can do to me that can even come close to the damage I have already caused to me, my family and the generations to come. These generational curses do get worst with every generation! But I am hopeful, very hopeful, that God will turn this thing around for good; because I know He is merciful, I know I love Him; and most importantly, I know He loves me and He wants the best for me and for you. Perhaps, He is already turning things around as I write these words.

            Men, it is time to come out of the closet! This specific teaching is to all heterosexual men in the church, who are giving their secret place to sexual immorality. Let’s take a good look at some statistics I found through http://www.safefamilies.org/

 

 

Show Me the Money!

  • As of 2003, there were 1.3 million pornographic websites; 260 million pages (N2H2, 2003).
  • The total porn industry revenue for 2006: $13.3 billion in the United States; $97 billion worldwide (Internet Filter Review).
  • U.S. adult DVD/video rentals in 2005: almost 1 billion (Adult Video News).
    Hotel viewership for adult films: 55% (cbsnews.com).
  • Unique worldwide users visiting adult web sites monthly: 72 million (Internet Filter Review).
  • Number of hardcore pornography titles released in 2005 (U.S.): 13,588 (Internet Filter Review).
  • More than 70% of men from 18 to 34 visit a pornographic site in a typical month (comScore Media Metrix).
  • As of December 2005, child pornography was a $3 billion annual industry (Internet Filter Review).

Christians, Pastors and Church Pornography Statistics

  • A 1996 Promise Keepers survey at one of their stadium events revealed that over 50% of the men in attendance were involved with pornography within one week of attending the event.
  • 51% of pastors say cyber-porn is a possible temptation. 37% say it is a current struggle (Christianity Today, Leadership Survey, 12/2001).
  • Over half of evangelical pastors admit viewing pornography last year.
  • Roger Charman of Focus on the Family’s Pastoral Ministries reports that approximately 20 percent of the calls received on their Pastoral Care Line are for help with issues such as pornography and compulsive sexual behavior.
  • In a 2000 Christianity Today survey, 33% of clergy admitted to having visited a sexually explicit Web site. Of those who had visited a porn site, 53% had visited such sites “a few times” in the past year, and 18% visit sexually explicit sites between a couple of times a month and more than once a week.
  • 29% of born again adults in the U.S. feel it is morally acceptable to view movies with explicit sexual behavior (The Barna Group).
  • 57% of pastors say that addiction to pornography is the most sexually damaging issue to their congregation (Christians and Sex Leadership Journal Survey, March 2005).

Statistics on Pornography’s Effect on Families and Marriages

  • 47% percent of families said pornography is a problem in their home (Focus on the Family Poll, October 1, 2003).The Internet was a significant factor in 2 out of 3 divorces (American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers in 2003 – divorcewizards.com).

Statistics on Child Pornography Use

  • 9 out of 10 children aged between the ages of 8 and 16 have viewed pornography on the Internet, in most cases unintentionally (London School of Economics January 2002).
  • Average age of first Internet exposure to pornography: 11 years old (Internet Filter Review).
  • Largest consumer of Internet pornography: 12 – 17 year-old age group (various sources, as of 2007).

               

So, how do we deal with this? This very question has haunted many believing men, and many failed because of such lack of knowledge. Please, head to truth. Proverbs 28:13 tells us what to do:

“He who conceals his sins does not prosper,
       but whoever confesses and renounces them finds mercy.”

The word “conceals” means, “to put or keep something or somebody out of sight, or prevent the person or thing from being found.” When we do this, the Bible tells us that we do not prosper. Hiding our sins is the reason why we can’t develop a more intimate relationship with God. Consequently, it is the reason why we do not mature in the things of God. That sin will eat us alive little by little; choke you like the deadly python. The good news is that there are two things you can do right now to start engaging in this battle against sexual immorality.

  1. Confess your sins.
  2. Renounce your sin. The word, “renounce” means, “To give up a habit, pursuit, or practice.”

            Neither one of these two solutions are easy, I know! As a matter of fact, they are extremely and incredibly difficult. The first one is frightening; we know that we will be judged and ridiculed, hated by some, etc. For that reason I have the following verse as my foundation.

“Do not be afraid of those who kill the body but cannot kill the soul. Rather, be afraid of the One who can destroy both soul and body in hell.” Matthew 10:28

The second step is even tougher. Sexual immorality is something that we develop by creating habits year after year. For some of us, it takes decades of engaging in these bad habits. However, God has given us all the tools necessary to pursue and beat this thing in Jesus’ name.  Come on men! It is time to come out of the closet and enjoy a greater fullness of life. The devil is a liar; no temporary pleasure can even compare to even the enjoyment of the pursuit of sexual purity. I have included with this article some very valuable resources; if you are serious about engaging in this battle, this is an excellent place to start.

 Some Valuable Resources:

Great Web Site with great resources: http://www.porntopurity.com/ 

One of the best if not the best book on sexual purity for men: www.everymansbattle.com/ 

This is a powerful and practical small book about speaking about homosexuality. Homosexuality is everywhere; are we going to ignore this reality or are we going to deal with this issue with truth and love? http://stores.newgrowthpress.com/-strse-900/Homosexuality/Detail.bok 

Rediscovering Sexual Purity: http://www.lifeaction.org/static/uploads/media/pdf/summithandouts/Rediscovering_Sexual_Purity.pdf 

The Purity Principle: http://www.wtsbooks.com/product-exec/product_id/5020/nm/The+Purity+Principle%3A+God%27s+Safeguards+for+Life%27s+Dangerous+Trails+%28Hardcover%29

Helpful Resources on Pursuing Sexual Purity for Men


Great Web Site with great resources: http://www.porntopurity.com/ 

One of the best if not the best book on Sexual purity for men: www.everymansbattle.com/ 

A powerful and practical small book about speaking about homsexuality. Homosexuality is here; are we gong to ignored this reality or are we going to deal with this issue with truth and love? http://stores.newgrowthpress.com/-strse-900/Homosexuality/Detail.bok 

Rediscovering Sexual Purity: http://www.lifeaction.org/static/uploads/media/pdf/summithandouts/Rediscovering_Sexual_Purity.pdf 

The Purity Principle: http://www.wtsbooks.com/product-exec/product_id/5020/nm/The+Purity+Principle%3A+God%27s+Safeguards+for+Life%27s+Dangerous+Trails+%28Hardcover%29