The Teenage Crisis in the United States of America


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I feel like society, the culture and even our own families are rejecting people like me more and more. Fathers like me are considered old-fashioned and outdated. The old-school approach of parenting was not perfect, but compared to this liberal approach; I rather keep the old ways.

         We, as fathers are competing with a culture that promotes the self-expression of our children. It is funny to me, because they know nothing yet (They are kids!!!!), but they think they know, so our culture promotes them expressing their ignorance and stupidity.

         The culture promotes them having rights for privacy, cell phones with internet access to the whole world and a constant social media that keeps them focus on themselves and totally disconnected from God and family. A culture that highly promotes an open and constant seduction expressed in the way they talk, in the way they text, what they watch on TV, Hollywood, in their clothing with, short dresses that keep very little to the imagination, legging, tight shorts and teats everywhere.

         The authority of fathers is challenged every. Our importance in the homes is diminished. What we do is rejected and made fun of and the worst part, many of us are not really taking our place. Many fathers are absent and continue to give grotesque examples of irresponsibility.

         Many other fathers are not absent, however, they are silence by their wives. Many have to choose between keeping their wives and confronting their children with their foolishness. So they stay quiet, go with the flow and lower the standards. They are afraid of hurting their kid’s feelings for fear of making “mama” upset. Disciple is out the door and disrespect is welcome with open hands. What is the result of this value system change? According to the Child Defense Fund (1992) these are the facts of what is happening to teens in the United States of America EVERY DAY:

  • EVERY DAY, 6 teens commit suicide
  • EVERY DAY, 7 kids, ages ten to nineteen, are murdered
  • EVERY DAY, 7 juveniles, ages seventeen and under, are arrested for murder
  • EVERY DAY, 8 teens are raped
  • EVERY DAY, 500 teens begin using drugs
  • EVERY DAY, One thousand teens begin using alcohol
  • EVERY DAY, One thousand unwed teenage girls have a baby
  • EVERY DAY, more than one thousand teenage girls get abortion.
  • EVERY DAY, more than twenty-seven hundred kids watch their parents separate or divorce.
  • EVERY DAY, more than four thousand teens contract a sexually transmitted disease.
  • EVERY DAY, more than one hundred thousand kids bring a gun or other weapon to school. (Clinton & Ohlschlager, 2013 p. 18-20)

         Beloved, it is so bad that discipline now is viewed as lacking love and being mean-spirited. These are lies from hell; but the problem is that the culture is taking those lies as Gospel truth, our families are taking those lies as Gospel truth and the preacher in the church lacks the courage to teach and preach about these things for fear of loosing his congregation. Because we understand the damage that legalism caused and continue to cause, we now embrace a friendly liberalism that is just as bad or even worst.

         But what does the Bible has to say about all these things? Did God run out of answers for our present cultural crisis? No! Take these verses into consideration,

“And you shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.” John 8:32 (NKJV)

         What we need is truth; yes, the tough truth that nobody wants to hear. But truth is not enough, it most be balanced with grace (John 1:17) We most give people an opportunity to come the way they are; we most be ready to receive them with open arms when, finally, their hearts be consume by repentance, when, finally they see the fruit of their ways. Pastor Jeff Oden from North Pole Church of God said it best, on a recent sermon as he refuses the idea of having babies out of wedlock be rise outside of the church. Indeed that will make matters worst. We most trust the Living God for our children, for our neighborhood and for our churches. Evil will always be out there, it will get worst; but we will bring them in with truth and with grace.

         Our children need discipline; discipline is an expression of love (Hebrews 12:6). Those tough conversations most take place. Several years ago they did a show on TV in Puerto Rico amongst the toughest criminals in prison. They all stated that they wished their parents would have being tougher with them, that the parent would have question them more…disciplined them more, etc. Those were the exact words I recently heard from a father, whose adult trouble step son told him, “I wish you would have been tougher with me.”

         I love all of my children and I face the same challenges all parents face; I am no difference. Statistics actually show that the challenges of blended families are even greater. However, I insist on a verse that keeps me going,

Train up a child in the way he should go,

And when he is old he will not depart from it. Proverbs 22:6 (NKJV)

         I will continue, in the mix of my own imperfections, to train up my kids, to give them something to remember. They may not apply it now; but perhaps when I am gone with my Heavenly Daddy, they can remember the good things I say and find forgiveness in their hearts for the other things I said and did that were not Godly. Perhaps they can remember, when they are old themselves, that even as we are not perfect, we have a mandate to pursue holiness and not use our pitiful state of being human, as a reason to expand in our evil ways. The crisis is before us; it is a reality. However, the solution is also before us. The solution is Jesus Christ and not this liberal, Obama backing, Oprah Winfield intellectualizing and Hollywood glorifying garbage.

 

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Reference

 

  • All scriptures quoted from the New King James Version Bible
  • Clinton, Timothy & Dr. Ohlschlager, George, Competent Christian Counseling, Water Brook, Volume I

A Response to Charles Barkley


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I am not a famous person; I do not have access to millions of people with the message God has given me. But I have to say that I disagree with some of Charles Barkley’s comments regarding the riots in Ferguson. He stated, “Those aren’t black people, those are scumbags“.

     I agree that they do not represent all of us; however they do represent a portion of us. We can’t ignore their behavior and place all the blame on the police; we must take responsibility and do something about it. What I am seeing, for the most part, are young kids with total disrespect for authority.

     I am irritated by this new generation of civil right leaders, who walk around with ecumenical titles, but totally ignore Scripture. They are part of the problem; and by the way, Charles Barkley, they are also black. Romans 13:1-2 tells us,

13 Let every soul be subject to the governing authorities. For there is no authority except from God, and the authorities that exist are appointed by God. Therefore whoever resists the authority resists the ordinance of God, and those who resist will bring judgment on themselves.” (NKJ)

    By disrespecting the police and people in authority in general, we are bringing judgment on ourselves. Are we teaching our kids how to get killed by the police? “Burn this mother F.. down…” is not the way we fight and win this fight. “Burn this mother F.. down…” coming out of the mouth of a grown man with his pants hanging off his butt is not the face of justice to me.

     Our greatest problem is not the police; our greatest problem is each other. I am black and I am Puertorrican. Puertorricans are killing Puertorricans in Puerto Rico and blacks are killing blacks right here in America. WE ARE OUR GREATEST ENEMY, not the police.

     How can we be so passionate about dealing with a less-than-one-percent issue (Police killing us for acting like fools most of the time) and totally ignore the 99% percent of the problem? We are the problem; the way we raise our kids and our total disrespect for authority; that’s the real issue! We are bringing judgment on ourselves!!!!!!! I did not say this, God did; is HE a racist to?

     During the days of Martin Luther King, the whole world saw on TV the brutality of the police as Dr. King and his follower peacefully marched. That brought about change; the greatest change in the history of the civil rights movements. But what did we see on TV coming out of Ferguson? Not only the “Burn this mother F.. down…”, but the actual destruction of many local business who were actually burned to the ground.

     I am not waiting for the government; especially for this particular government, I am not. Our President is part of the problem. By the way, Charles Barkley, he is also black. We are too busy blaming others and waiting for others to fix what is ours to fix. I can only do my part and you can only do yours.

     In my small karate class yesterday, I had young kids, a couple of teens and some adults. I felt very strongly about taking the time, at the end of my class, to teach these kids respect for the police. I was teaching them how to properly answer the police and how to properly react when interacting with them. I told them, if you are speeding and an officer stops you, cut the engine off, especially at night, place both hands on the steering wheel and respond by saying sir or madam. I told my kids, responding with respect and courtesy does not make you a punk, it makes you a mature person. I just felt an unbelievable sense of responsibility and fear for these kids. Not that their parents are not teachings them these things; but I wanted to reinforce their teachings.

     I trust that my Karate students will not get shot by the police over foolishness. My confidence is not based on our ungodly government or based on our new generation of so call, civil right leaders, but I have confidence in God’s Word as our absolute guide and on my student’s parents.

     We have too many ungodly voices with personal agendas out there; some of those ungodly voices are also coming out of our pulpits. They need to be quite, in the name of Jesus!

     We will make sure our children act like they have some sense when interacting, not only with the police, but with any person in authority and amongst ourselves. Let me also add that God placed our President and all of our leaders in their positions. Some leaders are there as an instrument of blessing, others for judgment and yet others as a reflection of society. We should not disrespect them either. Nevertheless, the Word of God is above them. The Bible also says,

“But he that knew not, and did commit things worthy of stripes, shall be beaten with few stripes. For unto whomsoever much is given, of him shall be much required: and to whom men have committed much, of him they will ask the more.” Luke 12:48 (KJV)

     At the end of the day we are all accountable to God; some already know that, some will realize that later, some will realize the power of this truth as they burn in hell for resisting Christ. But make no mistake about it, “It is written: “‘As surely as I live,’ says the Lord, ‘every knee will bow before me; every tongue will acknowledge God.’” Romans 14:11 (NIV)