Would You Allow Your Daughter to Marry a Black Man?
I heard a conversation among high school aged student that became an issue of concern for me. A few girls were having a casual conversation about marriage, dating, who to marry and who not to marry based on physical appearance. They were all predominately white! On the other side of the conversation was a young African-American male classmate. It is always fun to hear the amazing wisdom of teens on these kinds of matters… Right?
The first kind of man that the girls threw under the bus was the short man. They established, very passionately, that a woman should not marry a man that is shorter than her. The black kid tried to argue against that but he was outnumbered.
I asked myself, should I stop this mess now? But I felt like I needed to continue to listen to the amazing wisdom of these church going, Anglo, sweet sixteen aged girls.
Then one girl stated that she will never marry or date a black man; she boldly expanded on her point of view and why, as she found that the other girls were in agreement with her. I said to myself: “Oh, Oh!!!!!” They all agreed that blacks should marry blacks and whites should marry whites. Now the black young man was really in trouble!
At that point I decided to intervene. After all, I was the oldest one around, old enough to be each one of those kid’s father. I started by telling them that I understood that we all have our preferences, however, to reject another person because of the color of their skin is indeed, racism. That is when they told me, very plainly, that their parents would not accept a black man in that way…anyway. I told them that love has no color and that to establish that all races ought to stay with their own, when it came down to marriage, is a racist and offensive view, indeed.
Martin Luther King gave his life trying to convince the establishment to “judge black people for the content of their character and not for the color of their skin.” The young girls proceeded to say that it was not racism, but just their opinion. It was indeed their opinion and, they have the right to have one, but this view is repulsive.
Beloved, this just happened in May of 2013 among young people! I ended my speech by letting them know that I have four daughters and what I want for each one of my daughters is a godly man that would indeed love them and be willing to give his live for them. If those men are out there, in due time, I will be honored to call them my sons in law, no matter what the color of their skin or nationality is. I wonder if what I heard in this conversation is a representation of the culture of this region or just an isolated view? I just… I just wonder!