Would You Allow Your Daughter to Marry a Black Man?


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I heard a conversation among high school aged student that became an issue of concern for me. A few girls were having a casual conversation about marriage, dating, who to marry and who not to marry based on physical appearance. They were all predominately white! On the other side of the conversation was a young African-American male classmate. It is always fun to hear the amazing wisdom of teens on these kinds of matters… Right?

      The first kind of man that the girls threw under the bus was the short man. They established, very passionately, that a woman should not marry a man that is shorter than her. The black kid tried to argue against that but he was outnumbered.

      I asked myself, should I stop this mess now? But I felt like I needed to continue to listen to the amazing wisdom of these church going, Anglo, sweet sixteen aged girls.

      Then one girl stated that she will never marry or date a black man; she boldly expanded on her point of view and why, as she found that the other girls were in agreement with her. I said to myself: “Oh, Oh!!!!!” They all agreed that blacks should marry blacks and whites should marry whites. Now the black young man was really in trouble!

      At that point I decided to intervene. After all, I was the oldest one around, old enough to be each one of those kid’s father. I started by telling them that I understood that we all have our preferences, however, to reject another person because of the color of their skin is indeed, racism. That is when they told me, very plainly, that their parents would not accept a black man in that way…anyway. I told them that love has no color and that to establish that all races ought to stay with their own, when it came down to marriage, is a racist and offensive view, indeed.

      Martin Luther King gave his life trying to convince the establishment to “judge black people for the content of their character and not for the color of their skin.” The young girls proceeded to say that it was not racism, but just their opinion. It was indeed their opinion and, they have the right to have one, but this view is repulsive.

      Beloved, this just happened in May of 2013 among young people! I ended my speech by letting them know that I have four daughters and what I want for each one of my daughters is a godly man that would indeed love them and be willing to give his live for them. If those men are out there, in due time, I will be honored to call them my sons in law, no matter what the color of their skin or nationality is. I wonder if what I heard in this conversation is a representation of the culture of this region or just an isolated view? I just… I just wonder!

28 thoughts on “Would You Allow Your Daughter to Marry a Black Man?

  1. Brother Angel, It has amazed and saddened me over the years as a minister of the gospel to listen to “Christian” parents who have declared that the main point of concern for the man for their daughter or the woman for their son was someone who was the same color skin. While they gave theirs “list” of approved characteristics for what they wanted in their child’s future spouse, the last characteristic if at all was that they were someone who was a Christian let alone a radically sold out Christian. Parents don’t care about that and i have found that Kids don’t care about that either. They simply don’t want someone who is abusive and who is not of a different color. Amazing and VERY sad. Our priorities are messed up.
    If my boys, blond haired white as white could be, came home with a young lady who was black I would be concerned, not about her color but about whether she loved Jesus Christ and wanted to serve Him for the rest of her life. Would it be hard for my white son to marry a black female – yes it would have some difficult areas but that would NEVER be the thing to have me advise them not to marry.
    SAD!!!!

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    1. N P.
      I had a conversation with a very good friend of mine who is Indian from Trinidad and Tobago. She told me today she will not let her daughter to date or marrie a black American man.I myself who is from that island and is a black man in America was taken aback with her statement. She gave me all the stereotypes of her describtion of a black American man is, My son who is a black American I guess she looks at him that way. I caution her the more she forces her daughter to stay away kids rebels. I thought leaving the Caribbean where there’s a device between Indians and Aferican especially in Trinidad people would have evolved into intelligent thinking.

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  2. Well I have to agree, a lady should marry the person they are in love with regardless of race. If you will not marry interracially let it be because of taste and not racism. Everybody has an idea of what they are looking for and go from there. I fell in love with brains and that is where I went.

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  3. I do think God has the person already picked out for our children. That is my main concern. God is faithful about knowing our children even better then we do. I know he will choose someone who is compatible in most ways. WHo is complamentry in each others weeknesses. Someone who puts the other before themselves. WHo fills the needs of the other. It doesn’t matter if they are short or tall, black or white, ugly or cute, smart or not so smart. What matters is this be the person that God wants them to spend the rest of their life with. What matters to me , should I dare to say, is that my daughter marries a good provider, who is a good protector, and loves her like Jesus does.

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  4. Why is it wrong if someone has a preference to marry within their race? Some people have religious beliefs (or just a personal preference) that it is important to marry within your own cultural system (or biblical tribe.) Also, from a medical standpoint, it makes more sense as well. If you are faced with a organ transplant situation, it is much easier to find a transplant if you are not of mixed racial origin. Actually, I find if offensive if you label me racist because of my religious beliefs. If other people choose to marry outside their race then this is fine, but do not judge me, write articles about me or infer that my belief system is wrong. Who gives you the right to say that my beliefs or opinions are wrong? I take serious offense to this. I do not care who you marry and I do not make a big deal about this issue. It is a personal choice. Do not call me racist or we will have a problem. Maybe you should spend more time concentrating on the global issues that this country is faced with, such as: Islamic radicalism, gay marriage and abortion, which are obviously opposed to our written Bible teachings. Where do your loyalities lie? Did you vote for and support our current administration? Are you a Christian? Do you vote against anti-Christian beliefs?

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    1. i don’t have a problem with your preference i just want to know why? why does it matter shouldn’t love determine it if you fall in love with a white who cares a black who cares. i just want to know why your against it.

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  5. I am from Europe, and you have to understand that more and more people here are fed up with this multi-racial, multi-cultural society that the established media is trying to push us ETHNIC Europeans into. Our ancestors have been here for thousands of years, and obviously most of us don’t want to destroy our race by mixing it away with other non-European races. Different races are VERY real, race is IN FACT more than just a skin color. And these immigrant groups are just getting bigger and bigger, and in a hundred years from now we all will be mixtures of different races at about 30% and the rest of our European descent, but the immigration will continue to get higher and higher so it’ll get worse. There will be no ethnic Swedish people left, just because people like YOU are saying we shouldn’t look at peoples skin color but content of character. Is that what you want? People talk about preserving endangered species in the animal kingdom like the Siberian Tiger, but what about humans? Don’t we deserve to be a pure(or close to pure) race too? There are already 30-40% immigrants in the big cities of Sweden here. And it gets worse and worse by the year. Do you understand that we wont be able to take it back? The Mexicans are a mix of European and Native American blood, THEY CAN’T TAKE BACK TO WHAT THEIR ANCESTORS WERE. It’s impossible, the only thing that can be done now is to breed pure (95-100%) Native Americans only with each other in the US, that’s the only way they can bring back the flavor of real ethnic Native Americans in large numbers. The Mexicans can’t “extract” the European blood that they have in them, they have to live with it.

    Us Europeans don’t owe black people anything, or Arabs, or East-Asian or whoever else outside of Europe. Don’t come to us and say that we should breed our race away, calling us racist or whatever, so be it, we are racist, it’s on OUR land that we decide to be “racist”. And YOU KNOW that we’re right on this. We don’t go to African countries and demand Multi-Cultural society and a mass immigration of Europeans into those countries, and I condemn such people that do. I understand that US has a special history with slavery and land theft, but we don’t have that here in Europe for the most part, and we cannot control what early powers that did have slavery legalized of other people in Europe in ancient times, there was no Democracy back then, speaking of which there’s barely any democracy now, everything is popularized by the Media and the Jewish Hollywood where the demand of everyone is to be politically correct and not call Africans “nigger” or be critical of multi-culturalism(that radical Jews have been behind). One can lose their Job if they speak of such things, so there is no real freedom of speech or democracy. Even here in Sweden. There’s your whole claimed democracy, there is none when it comes to something you don’t like, the government and the mass media calls it “Hate-speech”.

    We are becoming an endangered species, we don’t like it and we WILL fight back eventually, this is OUR LAND, we have every right to do what we want to do in our own land. Make no mistake about that. After the brainwashing will stop, the people will rise. This wont look pretty, but the majority of non-European immigrants will be kicked back to their own countries that they or their parents came from.

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    1. I am very sorry that you are sad and angry; I really am. Your opinion reflects that anger and sadness. I hope that you find something in my blog that will give you joy and peace. I can say many things, but for now is best that I just ask the Lord to transform your mind!

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    2. Dear Sad and Angry European,
      I don’t know what is your age or background, but I feel so sad after reading your comment. I might be an idealist but I just can’t believe that people with such disgusting views really exist. First of all, I am also European and I feel offended that you depicted your ideas as those belonging to all Europeans. Why do you use WE all the time? Those are nothing more than your personal opinions. They are not mine. Or my friends’. Or of anybody that I know. Secondly, your facts are wrong. You have the right to your opinion of course. As much as it pains me to hear it, I have to respect your right to your own opinion and free speech. However, when you justify your opinion with facts, they should be at least accurate. And yours are not, on the most part. The difference between humans and tigers is that a Siberian Tiger is a species, not a race. In our case, our species is human, not black or white. So our species is safe. We don’t mate with other species (like monkeys) as far as I know. Furthermore, Europe is accepting more and more immigrants for many reasons of course, but one of them is very low birth rate among “pure” (as you call them) Europeans. Europe is getting old and at this point there’s practically nothing that can be done about it. Without immigrants we’ll disappear not that long from now.
      There are other arguments that I could make here on this subjects, but honestly I don’t have time for it and also, it won’t change anything. People like you don’t normally listen to reason.
      Have a nice life. I hope I never have to cross paths with you.

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    3. What an ignoramus. How shallow, how vapid. Do you know that human beings are essentially souls, what you see with your human eyes is temporal. You apparently discriminate against someone of “mixed race” and “other’ races. Your views of “pure breed” are very reminiscent of a certain time period that stained human kind. Why not see the good in humans instead of holding fast to such superficialities?

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  6. The point I see is, it is not wrong if you have a preference, it’s alright, we’re all different. However, how can you possibly say/know who will or will you not marry? Saying something like that without a valid argument doesn’t make sense and sounds offensive, making the speaker seem as a very narrow minded person. Similar to people asking me, would you come back to you home country? I reply, it’s my preference not to, but how can I possibly know.
    Let’s not be ignorant to how time passes and everything changes.

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    1. Is ok to have preference, the problem is when we start adopting the view point that it is wrong for a white woman to marry a black man, etc. When we start calling marrying outside of our race wrong we have really gone back to the times when segregation ruled in this country. We go back to the times when people used to get murdered just because they crossover another race. You may say as a woman, I like a told white man with blue eyes. Well, that your preference. I like my beautiful Afroamerican wife for example, that is ok. However, what I dealt with in that classroom was a form of racism. Help us Lord!

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  7. I’m also from Europe, white skined, and if I fell in live with a black guy I would marry him. Can’t believe there are so many narrow minded people. First, African people didnt come in USA because they wantet to leave their country but because white people deported them to be their slaves. Also, white people occupied their countries, made them colonies and caused them so much pain and you dont have anything against that. Also, many immigrantes came to Europe to skip wars that white people caused and to find a proper job and have a normal life because they cant have that in Africa. That continent has been robbed for ceturies Europeans had used their people and gold and other goods and now its not ok for them to come in Europe. And now they are “invading” us. You shoul be ashamed for what you said. African people deserves every right they have now vecause they were tourtured for so long by European people and now the least we ca. do is to let them come to our contries, work, marry and have a normal life.

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  8. It is foolish to marry someone outside of ones own race. It leads to a lot of conflicts. You try to claim Christianity as your position for the offense being given. Then you are to respect their view. I am a WASP and I expect to marry a WASP. When I have kids I will expect nothing less. It is the correct path for people to take and instead of trying to force a view that goes against the natural order of things. Just as gay marriage is incorrect so is interracial marriages.

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  9. I am a believer in Jesus Christ. I am a 19 year old middle eastern women. I was dating a black man for 8 months who is in love with Jesus and wants to serve him and him alone all the days of his life. He served in the military 7 years and is now completing his degree in biblical studies to become a pastor. He is 31. My father did not know that he was black for those 8 months but he knew everything else about him that I have listed. One day, I received the boldness to ask my father if he would like to meet this man. He said sure, why not. Then, I told him that he was black and he got very angry and said, “I am not meeting him.” Another side note is that my dads father was killed by a black man. As you can guess, this has built up much hurt in his heart. I love my ex boyfriend and I want to marry him one day. I do not want to hurt my dad. My dad has threatened to never speak with me again if I chose the man over him. I will continue to allow Gods will to be done in my life. I just ask for prayer in this difficult time in my life. Thank you so much….

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    1. So sorry to hear your story; painful story I should say. I also admire your respect for your dad; God will honor that. The reality is that you are very, very young. Your whole life is ahead of you. The Bible tells us in First Corinthians 13 that love never fails. If this is of God; you guys will be together. I pray that your dad allow God to deal with his heart if in fact he is rejecting your ex boyfriend just because he is black. I pray that your dad be able to forgive. God bless you. My personal email is angelcasiano@aol.com. At your service, Brother Angel Casiano

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  10. I’m of Nordic descent. I could never be attracted to anyone but my own race, it was bred into me through my DNA. As a mother of 7 white children it was common to talk open about dating out of our race and my children knew how strongly my husband and I would forbid such a thing in my family. They all grew up to find mates of their own race, and went on to have beautiful blonde with blue eyed children.I feel very proud to be out in public with any of my grandchildren. There is nothing wrong with wanting the best.

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    1. There is nothing wrong with having a preference, but to stop people to love outside of their race and to call any race better than others is arrogant, is racist and it is ignorant!

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  11. To hell with that! I know it’s correct to “wish only love based on character” for your beloved daughters and sisters. But it keeps dsigusting me Black man / white woman, enraging me every time i think of it. And all those stories of aggressive blacks towards their wives..
    And your anti-racist views , trying to hammer it down down our minds. Makes me think :
    There is something fishy here, if Black male / White female marriage needs so much propaganda for changing opinions and tastes, while normal marriage need not ( because it’s the best, everyone knows it, no need to advertise), maybe it is something we ordinary people don’t want indeed.
    Maybe I have some insecurities of my own or I’m very racially aware ( if our white genes weren’t recessive to black I would be totaly fine) but im strongly against IR (BM/WF) relationships – or at least double standarts for the male there. And I would still be very hurt and angry at my daughter for her “betrayal”.
    Love, strenght and wisdom to all of you!

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  12. What a conversation! It’s evident that the views are from one extreme to the other. Being a Black/Native American with European roots. I maybe leery of others that have judge me by my skin identification but doesn’t make me hate them or not want to associate with others that are different. I can’t afford to be prejudice or racist knowing my families lineage and history which I’m proud of or I wouldn’t be here. So glad that my family don’t have twisted views and I was able to marry whom I loved not base off race or culture. It’s a shame how people hate God’s people that he placed down here on earth from the beginning (Black Men) to multiply and be fruitful. None of us would be here if it wasn’t from his seed including Europeans. God’s task is being done as the human race is fulfilling prophecy which is spoken of in the Bible. All I can say is, we as humans don’t own this planet, it owns us and supports our lives that god gave us to be responsible for. Some are defeating the inevitable of “being mixed”. It may not be this generation but, it will be and hopefully we will live as one with many cultures and drowning out this dysfunctional color struck planet we live in now. We know that this hate comes from the one that came to kill, steal & destroy us. Open your hearts and minds people. God is love & he’s coming back for the pure at heart.

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  13. White people need to value their race. There is nothing more sicking to the eye then seeing a beautiful blonde haired blue eye white woman throwing her genes away by having babies with any race but her own.

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  14. The Pleiadians ( tall whites) better known as the Notrics colonized their race on earth over 250,000 years ago. They were told never to mix with other races because they were a lower life form.

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